So let's be real... when we get to a tough place in a partnership with anyone or anything we feel the pull to compromise. That dreaded word really kills the mood because it insinuates that you have to give up or lose something. The definition of the word says "to settle a dispute by mutual concession" and the part of the concession is what makes us cringe because is compromising really a good solution? Our "disputes" vary in our daily life and it's difficult to imagine a world with no compromise because then it will be very difficult to find peace with people or our surroundings. Are we really compromising or are we really harmonizing. The term harmony entails an arrangement to bring out the best of an ensemble. So what is the difference between the two? How do we achieve harmony instead of compromising?
This is tricky and it takes an open mind to try to see the difference but it lies with compassion. Compassion allows us to take a step back, remove the ego out of the way to listen and understand. From this mutual understanding you then, in the collective, see a solution that allows all to win. Now you're probably wondering what this has to do with health and wellbeing. It has everything to do how we treat ourselves in reaching our wellbeing goals. Having to take the step to start a diet or a new workout plan, you're left with a feeling that change means you will lose something you enjoy. This is the time in our journey that requires us to have compassion for ourselves and allow us to understand what the body needs. The connection of mind and body is sometimes fragmented by the approach of fighting our bodies to be or do what our minds says it should do. Harmonizing the mind and body to help each other thrive is the game.
If you are in this phase of your journey, here are a few tips to help you to harmonize:
Start a wellness journal and write out how you feel about dieting or body movement
Highlight the reasons for the feelings
Determine if the feelings are based on fact or assumption (fiction)
If these feelings come from trauma then it's a good idea to start discussions with a professional therapist
Once you sort out the facts then you can start making a plan of action on how to move forward with your wellness goals. A personal trainer or dietician can help solidify your plan
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